Ok, I am going to rant a little bit.
I have a friend of mine that I have known for 17 years. She was married young had children very young. Was abused young. Was divorced young. She came through all of that a better woman. What gets me, though, is that she has done everything right. She has tried to put aside her anger for the betterment of her children. Work with the father for their sake. Has gone through all of the proper channels in court.
My problem lies with the system.
This man owes her $16,500 and next month that goes up another $300. Yet the state of Va. and Md. still do nothing about it. They continue to let this man accuse her of everything imaginable, including having sex in front of her children.
Yet they do nothing but have a paper trail tied up in child support enforcement. Judges keep telling him he needs to pay but nothing ever gets done about it. Now she has tried to have his taxes garnished but, because he owns his own business that owes the Federal goverment money, they get theirs first. This woman lives at home with her mother. She's unable to better her family financially, yet he gets to own his own business. It has been 4 and half years since their divorce, and he has never helped with any part of his children in that time. Solely because they live with her.
How can anyone deny their responsiblilty to their children. So what if you're bitter towards your ex? Just don't use your children to have a fight with them.
There comes a time that you just have to grow up. You don't have to like the other person. Just try to get along enough so your children don't end up on antidepressants and suicidal because of it. Like the case of my friend's 13 year-old son. Because of his father, who blames it on a mother who is distraught over this.
When will people think of the children? Hopefully before it is too late.
EDIT by matthew: Line breaks, formatting, tpyo fixes. "Their" is possessive. "They're" is "they are". "There" is a location. "You're" is "you are", while "your" is possessive. You're not alone in having troubles with your possessive pronouns; they're difficult to remember, even when their definitions are right there in your dictionary!