So we are all people of the times. My question is, the wedding still a thing that is for the girl and the guy just rides along?
Back in the day, all the groom had to do was show up. He really didn’t even have to pay. That was left to the “Father of the Bride”.
With recent finacial situations though it seems to be a family affair when it comes to the paying and planning. We have all heard of the mother in-law intrusion on her trying to make it her wedding, but what about the groom. My husband agreed nonchalantly on the plans saying yeah he liked the theme. Then I had to assign him duties. Things that I knew I wouldn’t have time to do, beacause if I did I would have done them myself.
So gentleman, I know that you are great at the proposals but did you stop after that. Did you say the wedding was all her. Or did you join in the fun?
EDIT by matthew: Formatted.
Voted off the Wedding Planning Committee
4 weeks after proposing to my intended, I was voted off the Wedding Planning Committee. Apparently, I just wasn’t excited enough about meeting 5 videographers in one afternoon, and then spending an entire evening poring over “save the date” cards.
Thus, instead of going from florist shop to florist shop, arguing over which vendor does better floral arrangements, I am relegated to staying at home, or going out with my friends, or other such things.
I’m now going to keep my eye out for the “save the date” card, though, so I’ll know when and where I’m getting married.
Morning of my rehearsal…
Went (With Matt) to go see Star Wars when it was rereleased (1997), let everyone else stay behind.
Priorities, people…priorities
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>>My question is, the wedding still a thing that is for the girl and the guy just rides along?
Yeah, pretty much.
I did the right thing before my wedding — I went out of town to an opera apprentice program for the two months before my wedding, only getting back into town 5 days before the event.
Before I left, I contributed my opinions regarding the venue (they decided on a different place), the food (my opinions were ignored), and the open bar (the only one of my demands that was met). The only parts of the wedding that were my responsibility were choosing my groomsmen and picking the service music (I ended up writing the recessional, and the string quartet butchered it).
It was a really nice wedding. Everyone seemed to have a good time, the pictures turned out nice, and I have a lot of good memories. But, stereotypical as it may sound, the wedding itself is still the woman’s dream. Boys do not fantasize about their weddings from the time they’re children like girls do. Some women even seem to place more emphasis on the wedding than the marriage itself. For me, it was just a party – and like any party, as long as there was enough booze and good music, it would be fine.
— Ben
St Lucia
My wife was previously married, so when we decided to get married, the idea of a big wedding was for me and my family. With me being the baby and all, we figured my mom would want a wedding to see her last son off. My wife didn’t really want another wedding but was willing to do it for me & my family.
My mom told us if we we smart we’d forget a wedding and go somewhere nice.
So the next day we booked a trip to Sandals St. Lucia, spent a week there, and got married (4 years ago yesterday, in fact). It was the best wedding you could imagine, no stress in paradise. I tell everyone who tells me they’re getting married they should go away and do it. It was absolutely wonderful.
The timeline of my wedding day: 8:00-> wake up 8:30-> breakfast in an open-air restaurant with ocean view 9:00-> side-by-side massages 10:00-> Amy gets her hair and nails done, I go back to the room, shower and get ready 10:30-> I go to get my pictures taken while Amy gets ready 11:00-> I go watch soccer on TV while waiting for Amy 12:05-> Wedding (had to wait for a 5 minute rain shower), in a gazebo right on the ocean. 12:30-> Little reception 1:00-> wedding pictures on the beach 1:30-> That whole wedding consumation thing 😉 2:30-> POOL BAR!!!! 4:30-> Back to the room for a nap (Now how many of you wished you had time for a nap on your wedding day?) 6:30-> Get ready for dinner 7:30-> Dinner at the French restaurant, prime rib & all 9:30-> Hot tubbing it with a bottle of champagne 11:00-> back to the room for bed
We had a very informal party that summer back home for all our friends and family, which was very non-stressful as well.
My $.02 Weed
My brother will soon be getting married…
My brother and his fiance will be getting married this summer. They both want a small wedding, immediate family and a couple close friends and that’s it. So they decided to go to Vegas to get married.
The problem was, even though it’s so far away, other family members were wanting to invite and plan. Jakob called me very distraught one day and asked my advice. I reminded him that the groom’s family only gets the wedding breakfast. That’s it. If they don’t want a wedding breakfast, they can delegate something else for the grooms parents to help pay.
I told Jakob that he and his fiance, Trista, needed to make a list of what needs to be done and who they wanted to do it, delegate, and let everyone know that everything is taken care of. This should help prevent other people planning for them!
Apparently it is working well. Jakob has helped with some of the planning. I believe they’ve worked together to decide where the wedding will take place.
We have a few months ’til the big day. We’ll see how it goes!–
Christy